Some time ago I was able to observe a 10 year old girl with signs of what I often call the ‘Rift Personality’ or ‘Rift Illness’ (over sensitivity, over concentration, ‘crib reflex’, and tendency to feel detached) that was quite interesting. With this type of problem there are difficulties associated with interpersonal relations. This is quite a complicated affair as to the varieties of issues as to why this is a problem, but I noticed an example that was quit interesting.
The girl I speak of had signs of the ‘Rift Illness’ before. I could see her social awkwardness and problems making friends. While watching her one day at the playground I saw something interesting. She was with a girl she wanted to be friends with. Naturally, she talked with her and would try to do things with her.
As I watched her I could see the other girl as if ‘turn away’ from her, not in the sense of not wanting to associate with her but more that she was bored of her and was wanting something else. But the little girl with the ‘Rift Illness’ continued to talk. The other girl looked away as if she wasn’t interested. The little girl with the ‘Rift Illness’ was trying so hard but the other girl seemed to ‘flake off’, as they say.
From experience I could see what happened. The little girl with the ‘Rift Illness’, being very over sensitive to sensations, developed a strong mental apprehension of the situation. By mental apprehension I mean she had, in her head, an image of what her and the other girl were discussing and talking about. Because of her high sensitivity this image or mental apprehension became more powerful than the presence of the other girl. In a sense, the mental apprehension replaced the other girl. Her tendency to over concentration made here concentrate too much on the mental apprehension as well and, in a way, this made her sort of ignore the other girls presence.
When this type of thing happens, I’ve found, the other person seems to lose a ‘connection’ with the person with the strong mental apprehension. This is because the person with the strong mental apprehension, in a way, is associating with the mental apprehension and not with them. This makes the other person lose interest with the person.
Because they are associating more with the mental apprehension they often do not appear to be talking to the other person. This makes people ‘flake off’ or start talking to other people as if they aren’t even aware they are talking to them. This can be very frustrating and annoying to someone with the ‘Rift Illness’.
This type of situation also creates a tendency for the person with the strong mental apprehension to be called ‘weird’. This is because the person is there talking to you but he’s not all there. His mind is somewhere else (in the mental apprehension). They seem, so to speak, half in and half out. This gives them a quality of being weird.
With this type of situation you can see how having a strong mental apprehension can affect social relations. More often than not it is going to hinder any relationships as no one wants to be around someone that’s weird.