The other day I heard someone speak of ‘girl power’. They spoke of it as if it was some big thing. Out of nowhere I said this statement:
“All ‘girl power’ refers to is a bunch of girls who are discovering their conceitedness and self-concern.”
As I reflected on this, some interesting things came out.
Females, in general, have an inclination to be concerned about their self, their body, and their whims. This tends to make many females conceited, with a lot of self-concern. The morality, injunctions, prohibitions, and standards for ‘female behaviour’, all over the world, are often intended to prevent these tendencies from getting too out-of-control. It is very much a part of ‘female life’.
The girls discovery of her conceitedness and self-concern, which seems to begin in the pre-teen years, is often a big deal and can be a big influence in their life, but it ‘conflicts’ with Victorian sentimentality. Many girls, in this country, are brought up with Victorian-like manners as little girls. These are values of ‘proper behaviour’, and a reserved and conservative mentality (which were intended to prevent conceitedness and a preoccupation with themselves). But, we must remember that we are not in the Victorian world anymore. When girls go into the pre-teen and teenage years they find a world that the Victorian viewpoint has no place. What they find is a self-centered, ‘its all about me and what I want’ mentality of consumer U.S.A. Many girls jump on this mentality like a pack of wolves jump on an injured animal. This is because it is an attitude of ‘gain’, of ‘getting what they want’. It satisfies their tendency to conceitedness and self-concern.
In doing this, they jump from a ‘reserved and conservative’ attitude to ‘its all about me’. This is a big jump . . . from one extreme to the other! This is one reason why it can appear ‘dramatic’ and make them appear ‘grown up’. I’ve seen many people mistake this for a ‘growing up’ or a maturing. But thats not what it is. Many of these girls will grow into selfish-type people.
It also entails a defying of the teachings of their youth and the authority of their parents and society. Because of this, it often has a ‘rebellious’ quality about it. But, because the U.S. has glorified rebellion, there is a tendency to glorify this rebellion as well . . . as if it was some great event. This mentality is often taking after the ‘high rebellion’ attitude of the late 60’s in particular. At that time the rebellion was often looked at from the context of the cold war . . . a declaration of freedom and the ‘will’ of the youth. This same perspective is seen in ‘girl power’ I’ve found. It’s sort of a repeat of a mil-late 60’s rebellion, in a way.
Also, its association with the late 60’s rebellion also makes it so it appears to some people like a ‘liberation’ . . . of what I don’t know. I’ve heard claims of how it represents ‘girls finding their voice’. Yeah, I heard that 30 years ago too, and 20 years ago, and 10 years ago . . . so when are they going to find their ‘voice’? They won’t. Why? Because that is not what this is about. This isn’t the 60’s anymore. It’s not the same thing.
As a result of this ‘big jump’ and ‘rebelliousness’ it has quite an impact on some girls, influencing their perception of themselves in the teenage years. Because its associated with a discovery of conceitedness and self-concern, girls who take this point of view tend to be selfish people, often without any consideration for other people. That’s because ‘girl power’ is about themselves, of satisfying themselves. They can also get very controlling and, in some cases, almost dictatorial. They often seem to think they can do whatever they want, often being rude and ignorant with people.
I should point out that this is not about ‘girls finding themselves’, as I’ve heard some people say. In all my years I have seen very little evidence that the female needs to ‘find themselves’. This appears, to me, to be a male phenomena, reflecting male mentality and growth. All through history there is evidence of the males need for this . . . and scanty little of the females. This is just another justification for their behavour, using already existing and accepted justifications.
As everything seems to be in the U.S., it seems to be related to a female alienation, that they don’t have much of a place in modern society. Automation, consumerism, household utensils, etc., have all undermined the females place in the family and society. As a result, there is a general sense of ‘something lacking’. This sense is most prevalent in pre-teen and teenage girls because they are at an age where they are looking for their ‘place’. Instead, though, they find nothing. As a result, the idea of ‘girl power’ is appealing because it gives the illusion that they are not alienated and have somewhere to go.
But there is little evidence, that I see, that it’s helping their alienation. It seems to me that it just deceives them and misleads them in life. In that sense its like saying: “I’m alienated and have no place, but lets pretend I’m not – yeah, girl power!”
One of the dilemma’s, I’ve found, with the female is that they do not create their own insightful explanations of their own behaviour. By this I mean that they generally use ‘male logic’ or social trends to ‘explain’ their behaviour when, in actuality, it has other causes. I don’t think I have ever seen a female give an explanation of female behaviour that was not ‘pawned’ off something else, in some way or form. This is one reason why I always question female explanations of things. When it is apparent that they are ‘pawning’ off the male (such as portraying the female as being “tough”) or following social trend (such as claiming their rights are being violated in everything) then I question it. ‘Girl power’ appears to be such a ‘pawning’. It has taken themes from the male (by portraying the female as being powerful) and society (the themes of the late 60’s rebellion) but, yet, it seems to say very little about the females themselves.