Thoughts on how the modern female is a ‘slave’, ‘robot’, or ‘automaton’ – more dehumanization from the modern world???

These past some odd months I’ve found myself, for some weird reason, calling females ‘slaves’ all the time.  I’ll see a young female and say, “oh, there’s another slave”.  I also found myself calling them ‘robots’ or ‘automatons’ or a ‘marionette’. 

This mystified me.  Why would I say that?

As I reflected on this I looked at many girls more closely and noticed a look in them, which I can only describe as ‘inhuman’ or ‘unhuman’.  They look, often, artificial and not real.  In fact, I wondered if some girls were human at all!  There’s an incredible ‘eeriness’ about it all.  Being around some of them has a quality, to me, of being around a robot or a machine.  There is a quality of a mindless ‘somebody’ that blindly follows or does something, not much unlike a machine.  There often seems to be ‘nobody there’. 

The more I reflected on this the more I kept finding myself saying that females, nowadays, were “alienated” and had “serious identity problems” and “didn’t know what they were supposed to do or who they were”.  Looking at it this way, I began to see that there was great truth in this. 

The question of female identity problems is not new to me.  I haven’t thought about it in a while though.  I first saw the problems of identity problems way back in the 1980’s.  At that time, I thought only males suffered from it.  The females, it seemed at the time, were more ‘mature’.  Later, as I got to know it more, I saw that this was not true.  In reality, females were worse than guys . . . and still are, but they have a way to ‘hide’ it or that disguises it.  This is greatly helped by the female character.

THE “OTHER” – THE BEGINNING OF THE FEMALE ‘SLAVE’ OR ‘ROBOT’

The female character is molded by the theme of childbearing.  It has great and tremendous impact on their behaviour and how they view, interpret, and act in the world.  It determines their development and growth.  From my observation, it is the base of which the ‘female mind’ rests, and its qualities begin at an early age.  Its qualities give some of the greatest strengths of the female character, and some of its greatest beauties, but it also gives it some of its greatest weaknesses, especially in certain situations. 

I have found that childbearing creates in the female a ‘sense’ of what I always call the “other” which they need and in which they require to be made ‘whole’.  This “other” is really the child, but it can have representation through other forms (a husband, animals, etc.).  It is by and through the “other” that the female becomes a whole person.  Without the “other” they seem to have this quality of ‘searching’ for it that can become almost obsessive.  The absence of the “other” can have great impact on the female, often causing low self-esteem, despair, neuroses, and other things. 

It is so powerful that females, in many ways, ‘live’ through the “other”.  In other words, there is a tendency to ‘need’ the “other” to be become fulfilled as a person.  This makes the “other” very critical in the life of the female.  What it causes is something like a ‘hunger’ for the “other” which, really, is an unconscious desire for a child that is innate in the female. 

When they find the “other” there is a tendency of the female to ‘lose themselves’ in it.  That is to say, they sort of ‘absorb’ themselves into the “other”.  This, really, is motherly love.  When a female displays motherly love they often will lose themselves in the child, forgetting themselves and placing the child as if it is an extension of them.  Sometimes this can go where they will forget themselves.  This shows a tendency for the female to ‘become’ the “other”, so to speak.  In so doing they, in a way, cease to be themselves, and forget themselves, with the “other” being everything.

As a result, we see that the childbearing theme, involving the “other”, creates a number of qualities in the female. These include:

  • An obsessive need for the “other” >>> creates a blind drive that must be satisfied.  This makes them willing to do practically anything, oftentimes, to gain the “other”.
  • A tendency to ‘absorb’ the “other” into oneself >>> a tendency to imitate or become something other than oneself.
  • A tendency to lose or forget oneself >>> a tendency to be mindless or blind.

These naturally appearing traits, originating from the ‘childbearing instinct’ in the female, all work together to give the female, under certain conditions, a quality of a ‘slave’ or ‘robot’.  It creates, in a way, a ‘selfless absorber of another’ or ‘mindless imitator’ quality.

THE SOCIETY-AS-THE-“OTHER”

The ‘slave’ or ‘robot’ is a result of the female taking society as if it were the “other”.  Being that this is the case, they treat it much like a child and, accordingly, have similar reactions as they do with a child.  As a result, they need it, they imitate it, they absorb it into themselves, and all this is done blindly and mindlessly.  As a result, they become a ‘slave’ or ‘robot’ to society, following its every beckoning and whim. 

In their attempt at absorbing society-as-the-“other” it causes a number of manifestations:

  • They have to follow every trend and fad. 
  • They do whatever society tells them to do. 
  • They are ‘up’ on every latest thing and have to follow it.  Nothing more describes this than the statement, “that’s so 5 seconds ago”. 
  • They become maniacal about social networking. 
  • They become obsessed with the phone.  Many spend most of their day texting.

Since this is all done with the attitude of ‘absorbing’ the “other” it is done mindlessly, without thought, making it appear almost ‘robotic’.

These tendencies are so strong that, oftentimes, they will do whatever society says, even if it causes great pain and suffering for them.  Many will devote their whole life, for example, to trying to look ‘socially acceptable’, spending hours and a fortune on exercise, eating proper food, cosmetics, clothes, etc.  Many will ‘have to’ buy the latest fad in clothes, regardless of the cost.  Others will devote their life to some form of socializing through the ‘latest fad’ (right now texting is big).  When these attempts fail it can have drastic effects on them.  It can be devastating to some girls, causing a loss in self-esteem, despair, depression, and other problems.  Such is the power of the need for the “other”.  

This need for the “other” can become so obsessive and compulsive that it can dominate their life.   In effect, it turns them into ‘slaves’, having to obey the society-as-the-“other” like a ‘robot’.  And, like a robot, they have to do whatever is required and its done blindly.  So, you see, many females ARE ‘slaves’ and ‘robots’.

THE ILLUSION OF FALSE MATURITY AND SOCIAL IMITATION

One interesting aspect of this quality is a false maturity.  As I said above, it appeared to me, for years, that females were more ‘mature’ than the males.  But, as I began to understand things more, I began to see that this is an illusion.  I first suspected this when many females who, on first glance, seemed mature actually, when you got to know them, very much like a spoilt brat.  This naturally made me question what was going on. 

What I found is that the female, being a ‘slave’ and a ‘robot’, HAS TO keep up on the latest social behaviour and trend.  Because of this, they are always ‘up’ on the latest ‘thing’, doing the latest social convention, following the most recent mannerisms, expressions, slang, and behaviour.  God help them if they don’t!  Many girls eyes are often ‘wide open’ absorbing every ‘social thing’ to follow and imitate.  Because they are so ‘up’ on the latest thing, and wide-eyed in its absorption, it gives them the illusion of being ‘together’ and ‘with it’.  And, as a result of following and imitating current up-to-date  social behaviour, it gives them the appearance of being ‘grown up’ and ‘mature’.  They seem to be displaying social ideals and ways, making them seem like they display these qualities.  In reality, though, they are being nothing but a good social imitator.

This can go so far that they will go through great lengths to do things, that are perceived as ‘admirable’ in society.  But, we must remember, that this is done in an act of complete imitation.  That is to say, it is motivated, not out of a desire to do it, but to imitate it.  It is done in imitation, not as something that has meaning to them.   They do it because it’s what society is doing, not because they ‘believe’ in it, or want it.  Remember, they are absorbing the “other”, losing themselves in it (much like a mother with a child).  Their motive is in the absorption, not in the emulating, of the society-as-the-“other”.  As a result, many females will do things that seem to be ‘big’ socially but which has absolutely no meaning to them deep down.  In fact, they often care less about it, though that may not what it seems at first glance.  This makes a lot of what females do an illusion.  It also gives a general ‘illusionary’ quality about the female.

A good example is how many girls go to college.  I’ve talked with quite a few and I was often struck on how many seemed, deep down, like they didn’t care about it at all, but yet they were ‘up’ on it, following every little thing, stating the generic statements of how great an education is.  Not only that, many didn’t understand what they were doing or didn’t know anything about what they were studying.  But, yet, they would go through great pains to study and endure it all.  It didn’t take a genius to see that there was something else going on, that they were motivated by other reasons other than ‘learning’ and their interest in it.  Their motive for being there was totally different than the males.  I could see that many girls go to college because they are told to do it.  As a result, it’s nothing but another display of their ability at social imitation.  Nowadays, they drill into girls heads that they need to go to college, and being the slaves and social imitators that they are, they go . . . all without caring about it, or if it’s the right thing to do or not.  It’s all done blindly and without thought.  And since the drive to absorb the society-as-the-“other” is so strong, they suffer through it.  This gives them the illusion of people who are interested in education and learning, who have a goal in what they’re doing, and who are ‘committed’ to finish.  This is a good example of how the female mentality is so much more different than the males, of how when a female and male do the same thing it’s often for totally different reasons.

THE EXAGGERATED QUEST FOR THE “OTHER” – A “FISH OUT OF WATER” – DEHUMANIZATION AND THE FEMALE

Nowadays, the drive to absorb the society-as-the-“other” is done with such mania and craze that many girls are losing their ‘self’, their ‘personhood’.  They are losing themselves in it all, completely forgetting themselves in their maniacal quest to absorb the “other”.  In so doing, they turn themselves into ‘nobodies’, following the latest fad and trend blindly and without thought.  In so doing, they become like ‘robots’, ‘automatons’, and ‘marionettes’, following every beckon and whim of the latest social trend or fad or whim. 

Though these tendencies are following natural patterns in the female character, it is being done in an exaggerated, extreme, and unhealthy form.  I’ve found that, despite their efforts, being successful in following the trends and social ideals does not make girls happy or increase their self-esteem.  This means that there is nothing to satisfy their efforts, which means that they are in a losing battle, focusing their life, and doing great effort, for something that will give them little in return.  It’s like their whole life effort is misguided.

I cannot help but get a sense that females, nowadays, have the appearance of a “fish out of water”.  They don’t seem to be where their natural inclinations require them to be.  As a result, their natural inclinations are going in oddball directions, making them do oddball things and behave in unusual ways.  It’s made many females live misguided lives, pursuing misguided things. 

I can see that there is a ‘hidden’ and ‘unrecognized’ dilemma in the femalehood nowadays . . . caused by dehumanization.  So far, I have heard no one speak about this or, rather, how the female has reacted to it.  It seems to me that it has greatly affected the female and, in a way, is eating away at naturally appearing female tendencies.

One of the reasons why is that the female mind is very specific and ‘specialized’, so to speak.  Nature “designed” the female mind for childbearing.  In reality, this mentality has no ‘place’ in the modern world with all its machinery, technology, and consumerism.  As a result, many females are finding that their ‘natural tendencies’ are not ‘fitting in’ to the modern situation.  This gives female dehumanization a unique quality.   

Some of the things that, I think, have amplified this situation include:

  • The destruction of practical purpose.  Consumerism has devastated the purpose of the wife/mother.  It’s done this by the creation of machines/products that replace the function of the wife/mother.  Nowadays, we practically have machines/products to do what the wife/mother has done for centuries.  This puts the wife/mother in a position of being ‘useless’ or ‘static’, which is a position of being dehumanized.  I’ve often felt that this is what’s done the greatest damage to the female.
  • The question of the practical economy.  At this time, we practically need two people working to raise a family.  This, basically, takes the female out of the ‘home life’ and ‘out into the world’, which does not emulate natural female inclinations. 
  • The portraying of the female and femalish things as bad.   With the fall of the wife/mother, there developed an increase in female low self-esteem.  There became some females who began to portray the female as ‘bad’, claiming they were ‘victims’, ‘oppressed’, and so on.  This point of views did not help the female situation, helping to further alienate them.
  • The attempt at masculinization of the female. With the fall of the wife/mother many females saw, as a solution, the masculinization of the female, as making a female out as a man.  All this did is alienate the female from herself.

We see that, not only did current historical situation dehumanize the female, but also the female herself, by the creation of viewpoints and philosophies (such as that the female is a victim) that only alienated her further from herself.

With all this it seems like there is a pattern to female dehumanization this past century or so:

  1. Consumerism creates products that undermine wife/mothers role and use.
  2. They feel dehumanized and worthless as a result
  3. They try to solve this dilemma by ‘breaking out’ and doing what the male is doing, working ‘out in the world’.
  4. There are all sorts of problems with this so they create philosophies (such as feminism)to justify this attempt.  These philosophies are also attempts at regaining a dignity in being female that was destroyed by dehumanization.
  5. Their attempt fails and they are still dehumanized. 

In other words, what this shows is an “attempt” at solving female dehumanization, which actually failed.  This first “solution” to female dehumanization was to ‘do what the males do’.  That is to say, to work out ‘in the world’.  The problem is that this does not ‘satisfy’ natural female inclinations.  The more I look at females working and having careers, the more I can see that this is not the solution to their problem.  I don’t care what all the legal/political philosophies claim.  On the human level, it doesn’t work that well.

This shows a dilemma in female dehumanization, one which I see no solution at this time.  The purpose of the wife/mother has actually been destroyed.  This was their place in society for centuries all over the world and gave them their worth.  Now that this place and social position is gone, where is there a place for the female to go?  Really, there is nowhere.  All that is left is the males position, which many have practically tried to take over.  But this position does not reflect female inclinations.  As a result, it isn’t going to work. 

This gives the female three places to go:

  1. The social position of wife/mother.  This position seems like its hanging on by a thread.  I still believe that if this position could develop validity and worth, females would naturally go there.
  2. By going into the males social position, which does not emulate their natural inclinations.  Many females are showing that work (taking the male social position) does not satisfy them.  They don’t take it to heart and tend to ‘just go along’ with it.  Most females don’t put themselves into it because it does not satisfy any inner need.  You can see that it doesn’t have the meaning as it does with many males.   This means they will tend to go somewhere else.
  3. By ‘hanging on’.  Here they do what’s required, such as get a job to help pay the bills, but they try to maintain areas in their life that emulate their natural inclinations.  It’s in these areas that they focus all their energies and life.  Some will go through great lengths in this and,as a result, it has created something like an ‘exaggerated feminity culture’.  A problem with this is that it seldom has any ‘benefit’ for society.  My observation is that this is the most prevalent path females take.

Many females are really as if ‘stuck’ between the male position and the female position.  This has caused great identity crisis in some females.  Many females aren’t even sure what the female means or what use they have in the world.  They often develop mistaken views of what they are and what their purpose is.  As with male dehumanization we are seeing a breakdown of the person.

The real question to female dehumanization is this:

In the dehumanizing modern world, with all its technology and machines, where is there a place for the female to emulate their natural inclinations and develop a worth as a female?

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