Thoughts on aspects of alienation and dehumanization in the female

With the coming of the modern world we have seen a devaluation in the human being, human things, and human impulses.  The modern mechanistic scientific-based world does not need them.  As it has grown we have all found ourselves enveloped, not in a human reality, but a machine or technological reality.  This has now become so extensive that instead of the modern world conforming to us, we have to conform to it.  This has caused many of us to ‘throw off’ many innately human impulses.  In doing so, many of us have found ourselves struggling with feelings of alienation and dehumanization.  Both the male and female have taken a blow.   Because the male and female are different people, with different characters, they react to alienation and dehumanization differently.  The female has certain qualities that creates very unique reactions.  Not only that, many female character traits hide their alienation and dehumanization. 

REACTIONS TO ALIENATION AND DEHUMANIZATION

Often, when the male is alienated and dehumanized they have reactions such as:

  • They go into apathy.
  • They struggle with overt feelings of being ‘lost’.
  • They often make attempts at dealing with these problems, which have this tendency of never working.

These are often considered ‘symptoms’ of alienation and dehumanization.  But they are only the male reaction.  Since the male talks about it the normal perspective is to look at this problem from a male perspective (I have never seen a female discuss this issue).  But females also have their version of alienation and dehumanization.  Since they don’t think, dwell, or talk about it, no one knows about it . . . or even think it exists.  But it does, and it is somewhat different from the males, because of their different character.  The female reaction is often the opposite of the male:

  • They go into ‘blind following’.  That is to say, they follow the latest trends, fads, and such almost religiously and in complete blindness.
  • They often feel no apparent conflict and, if they do, they project it onto something (such as the male or society).
  • They make no attempts at solutions.

These all give the illusion that females do not have alienation and dehumanization problems It gives no apparent “signs”, whereas the males display endless “signs”.  In fact, because of the ‘blind following’ tendency in the female, there is an illusion that females are ‘together’ or ‘with it’ oftentimes.  This is because they are appearing to do what is ‘socially acceptable’.  This, though, is not how they are deep down.  This shows that, with the female, one must be careful of the ‘outward appearance’ of the female . . . as it often hides something.  Many girls hide behind fads, trends, and social things.  They put it on like armor.  Because the ‘sign’s of female alienation and dehumanization are not alarming (which is what we often see in the male) they tend to not be that noticeable.  As a result, female alienation and dehumanization often requires that a person must look for it.

Some other qualities created by female alienation and dehumanization include:

  • Extensive and intensive ‘blind following’, even to the point of being robotic.
  • Trying to be a man or do male things.
  • An “exaggerated feminity”.
  • Lack of emotion.
  • Extensive projection of their feelings and problems onto other people, such as the male, or society.
  • No attempt at seeking things that satisfy their ‘femininine’ inclinations.
  • A very low self-esteem.
  • A very low view of the female.
  • No sense of dignity.
  • An arrogance . . . thinking the female is superior.
  • Portraying the female as a victim, abused, or a slave.

THE “ATTEMPT” AT SOLVING THE CONFLICT

Early on, this society has started an “attempt” at solving the basic female alienation and dehumanization problems.  The problem is that it doesn’t work.  What they did is to try to solve it using the political/legal and social ideals of the country.  In other words, they made a political/legal/social issue out of a human(feminine) issue.  This is one of the reasons why it failed.  This is not a political/legal/social issue.  It is a human issue . . . more specifically, a feminine issue.  Political theory, legal theory, and social ideals aren’t going to solve it . . . and aren’t, nor will they.  And so, from the beginning, dealing with female alienation and dehumanization was off-target.  It remains so, even to today.

Because of the political/legal/social “attempt” at this problem, certain themes are commonplace:

  • Having equality (that is, being treated like a man).
  • Being successful.
  • Having an education.
  • Having a profession.

One of the things that is quite apparent is that these all entail forms of imitating the male in some way or doing what a male does.  You’ll notice that none of them entail “feminine” things or involve “feminine” inclinations

That is the problem!

In actuality, the political/legal/social “attempt” at the growing female alienation and dehumanization has only led the female further from herself.  This is exactly what I see in the females today.  One of the first things we need to get rid of is the ‘justification’ for all this political/legal/social claims.  It’s like its being used as the panacea, or ‘cure-all’, of all the females problems.  Well, it isn’t.  In maintaining the ‘justification’ for political/legal/social claims, and the persisting of this mentality, the females are only digging a hole for themselves.

What are they telling girls to do today?  What is their “solution”?  Basically, to “ape” the male, get an education, and get a profession, and be successful.  In extreme cases, they are telling them to ‘become the man’ or even to replace the male.

That’s it!  That’s the only choice! 

Don’t you see the problem with this?  First of all, it’s a single-sided narrow choice with no options or alternatives.  Secondly, what does it have to do with femininity?  Thirdly, why must they do male things, and even try to replace him?  And fourth, why is this the “one thing” they must do?

There is a trend, now, where they are telling girls that they “have to” go to college and “have to” get a job. 

They “have to”???

Even when I was in High School, only a small segment of the guys even thought about going to college or the University.  Being one who wanted to go (to become a psychologist) I actually felt like a minority.  It seems that maybe 10 or 20 percent of the guys even considered it.  But, yet, they’re telling all these girls they “have to” go, and so, in ‘blind following’, every female and their dog is going there, whether they want to or not, whether they have plans to do anything or not. 

I also recall, when I was in High School, that we guys were never ‘pressured’ to get a specific type of job.  Very few guys thought of getting a professional job.  Most would just ‘find a job’ and that would be it.  There was no pressure to be successful or make a lot of money.  Many guys would get a job stocking shelves or working at a gas station and be content with that.  But with girls now, its ‘success!, success!, success!’.  It’s unbelievable!  No wonder females now are so wound up, uptight, and ‘bitchy’.  No wonder they are difficult people.  No wonder no one wants anything to do with them.

But all this is done to satisfy, not the female natural inclinations, but the political/legal/social issues.  Because they have emphasized this so  much the females, themselves, have failed at addressing their own ‘female issues’.  And so, IN DEALING WITH FEMALE ALIENATION AND DEHUMANIZATION WE NEED TO GET AWAY FROM THE POLITICAL/LEGAL/SOCIAL ISSUE MENTALITY.

The “solution” to female alienation and dehumanization is not:

  • Equality. 
  • Being a man.
  • Replacing the male.
  • Being successful.
  • Having an education.
  • Having a profession.

These are the things they are now telling girls to do . . . their “only choice”.  None of them entail feminine inclinations.  As a result, none will solve alienation and dehumanization.

UNIQUE PROBLEMS

Female alienation and dehumanization has a number of unique problems.  These seem to originate from a unique quality found in the female:  the theme of childbearing.  I have found that the theme of childbearing is dominant in female psychology.  It’s so dominant a theme, in fact, that it is like they are designed to do just that one thing.  When they do other things not related with childbearing (such as work or day-to-day affairs), they still use the ‘childbearing mentality’ as the basis for all their behaviour and perception of things.  It is like the center of the female reality, though it may not seem like it.  The more I learn about it the more I see it in almost everything they do, even their movements.  This shows that, with the female, the theme of childbearing is dominant . . . they are ‘childbearing centered’.  The male, on the other hand, does not have a single quality that he is centered upon.  Because of this, he has the ability to be flexible that the female cannot be.  

This ‘centering of functions’ of the female is so dominant that they display it all the time.  Above, I mentioned how females are told that they “have to” go to college and get a job.  This reflects this mentality.  The ‘centering’ mentality makes females tend to be strict and specific about things.  As a result, they “have to” do a lot of things, even down to their clothes and mannerisms.  The male, not having this quality, does not “have to”, as shown in the example from High School above.  Females are always displaying this centeredness in all aspects of their mentality.  This centeredness, though, tends to create problems:

  • It makes females more directed to specific things, lacking the ability to be flexible.
  • It makes them feel they are a slave.
  • It makes it so they don’t have much choice.

For some females, this can create a lot of problems.  For some, if it causes problems then their tendency to projection makes them blame the male, society, or something else for it.  This shows that a lot of female blaming and accusation really originates from inner female dilemmas.

Projection, which is a common trait of the female, also reveals the ‘childbearing theme’.  The innate tendency of childbearing makes the female innately aware that there is ‘someone else’ that is there . . . or going to be there.  As a result, the female has an innate quality of an awareness of what I call the ‘other’ (the child).  Since it is based in childbearing it is a need, a ‘need for the other’.  This makes it so that the female is ‘always in need’ of someone and in which their mentality almost always requires a presence of someone somewhere.  This makes them very social minded and socially concerned. 

Being based in childbearing, the sense of the ‘other’ is so strong that the ‘other’ can be viewed as an extension of themselves.  This often makes it difficult for them to tell the difference between the ‘other’ and themselves.  As a result, their ‘problems’ or ‘feelings’ become the ‘problems’ or ‘feelings’ of the ‘other’.  This tendency is the basic principle of projection, of projecting oneself to someone else.  This makes projection a common and easy thing for them to do.  In addition to this, it makes it so that there is a tendency for them to ‘lose themselves’ in the ‘other’.  In some sense, they become the ‘other’.  This can go to the point that their life, identity, and self is looked at from the ‘other’ and not themselves.  This quality creates a ‘mindlessness’ and ‘selflessness’ in the female – they see themselves from the perspective of the ‘other’.  Their tendency to ‘mindlessness’ and ‘selflessness’ tends to make females ‘blind’ in what they do, blindly agreeing, blindly following, blindly believing.  It also makes it so they don’t look interiorly about things.  This makes it so they are easy to go off in the wrong direction

All this shows some unique qualities about female inclinations that affect their alienation and dehumanization:

  • It is very specific
  • It is inflexible.  
  • It involves a ‘mindlessness’ or ‘selflessness’.

The specific and inflexible nature of female inclinations make it so that they need a ‘specific solution’.  A generalized solution, such as ‘getting a job’, for example, isn’t going to satisfy their inclinations.  The fact is that female inclinations are specific and, as a result, are only satisfied in their unique specific ways.  For example, I’ve seen many females with a job, or doing male things like sports, and I can see that, for most, it has no real inner meaning.  Its primary satisfaction is in other ways, such as satisfying social trend, or necessity, or views of what they think they should be doing.  That is to say, it doesn’t satisfy any female inclination.  What this means is that females tend to need a very specific lifestyle, doing specific things, to satisify the specific inclinations of feminity.  If one looks at history, all over the world, one can see that this is exactly what they did. 

CAUSES OF ALIENATION AND DEHUMANIZATION

Females have become alienated and dehumanized because of a number of qualities:

  • They have been taken out of the area of their natural inclinations.  
  • A poor attitude about themselves.

Normally, we think it is a result of being taken out of the area of their natural inclinations.  This appears to be the primary cause for male alienation and dehumanization.  But we are not talking of males here, but females . . . they are not the same which means that the female probably is not following in the same path as the male.  This, I believe, is the case.  In general, I tend to think that female alienation and dehumanization began with having poor attitudes about themselves.  This seems to of began, in particular, in the Victorian era.  Here is where they began to show signs of it.  But, what’s interesting is that, at that time, they were all in a position where females have been in since the beginning of time and which was rooted in natural female inclinations but, yet, they began to become alienated.  What appears to of happened is that, in the Victorian era, the males did a lot of things and created a lot.  In so doing, they changed and affected a lot of society and created many new things.  The females sat and watched this and, basically, became envious.  Because of this, they began to develop poor views of themselves and what a female is.  In other words, it begins with “male envy”.  This started a pattern of ‘pissing and moaning’ at being a female that we see still today. 

Later, after WWII, we see a new phase in female alienation and dehumanization:  the coming of consumerism.  All these consumer products, which were supposed to make life easier, actually made the housewife defunct and useless.  This, coupled with the poor view of the female coming from the Victorian era, brought the female to a low. 

And then, shortly after this, during the cold war, the political/legal/social issues were the rage:  equality, rights, freedom, etc.  As a result, the females jumped on the ‘band wagon’ and rode it along.  They moulded their dilemma and conflict to fit these perspectives in such a way that it made it appear that in them is the answer to their problems. 

So, we can see that the ‘solution’ that we see to female alienation and dehumanization is actually determined more by historical circumstance than anything else:

  • Victorian era – male envy – creates poor attitude about themselves.
  • Post WWII era – consumerism makes housewife useless – this is actual alienation, of being made useless.
  • Current times – females made themselves out as ‘oppressed’, ‘enslaved’, and ‘victims’ to fit cold war poltical/legal/social ideology.

Or, to go into more detail about what they caused:

  • Male envy >>> females must seek to be a man and even replace him.
  • Male envy >>> females must be successful.
  • Male envy >>> females must be educated.
  • Male envy >>> females must have a profession.
  • Political/legal/social issues >>> females must have equality.
  • Political/legal/social issues >>> females rights are violated.
  • Political/legal/social issues >>> females are victims.
  • Political/legal/social issues >>> females are slaves.

In the end, though, these efforts to ‘save’ the female only made them further away from who they are, only intensifying their own alienation.

What is interesting is that though some things have made the females useless, females have done a lot to create their own alienation and dehumanization.  The male, on the other hand, was primarily alienated and dehumanized by outside forces.  Because females have a large hand in their own alienation and dehumanization I have always felt that females actually could probably get out of it easier than a male could.  It seems a number of things would help:

  • A change in attitude about themselves and their role in the world.
  • A change in lifestyle that satisfies and supports natural female inclinations.
  • Support from other people, the culture, and society.

All this is easier said than done though.  Our decayed unhuman society we live in doesn’t foster these qualities much.

SOME THOUGHTS ON A SOLUTION – THE REESTABLISHMENT OF A ‘FEMININE HOME’

Knowing the pattern of how things have gone, I have always felt that females should:

  • Quit trying to be a man.
  • Develop better views of themselves.

Because of the female mentality, it will require more than that.  It will require social support and direction.  Because of the tendency of the female to do ‘blind following’ and the need for the ‘other’, the female needs something to tell them where to go . . . they will not just up and do it themselves.  At this time, there is nothing doing that.  The best people to do this are the mothers and grandmothers but they aren’t doing much from my observation. 

Not only that, the ‘home’ needs to become a reality again.  I say this because a ‘home’ seems to be where female inclinations are best displayed and lived.  All over the world since the beginning of time the female has had a ‘home’ where she had a place and a use.   When I see females who seem unalienated and not dehumanized they seem to have a quality about them:  a sense of a ‘home’.  It seems to me that the fall of the ‘home’ is the fall of the female. 

But, for the female, the ‘home’ is more than just what we think a home is.  For most females it is a deep inner place, that has deep inner significance and which displays natural feminine inclinations.  Because of this I speak of this as the ‘feminine home’.  It is a specific reality, a world where the female “resides” as she really is, so to speak.  Here there is no politics to tell her she should be this way or that.  There is no legal perspectives to say she deserves this or that.  There is no social ‘trend’ to tell her how she should behave.  Here, she does not have to compete with the male or try to be a male.  In the ‘feminine home’ is her natural feminine inclinations, that is all.

Some traits of the ‘feminine home’, from my observation, are:

  • It’s a specific place.
  • It entails specific people.
  • A certain few of these people have deep intimate connections.  As a result, there is like a “hierarchy of intimacy”.  It ranges from no intimacy at all (such as strangers) all the way to people so intimate they consider them a part of themselves (such as a husband or child).
  • They need to belong to someone.
  • They must feel ‘looked after’.
  • They generally like to ‘cater’ or take care of someone in some way.

We see a couple of themes:

  • The theme of “limitedness”.  The place, the people, their ‘intimacy’, is very limited to a few things.
  • It’s very people-oriented. 
  • They must “become a part” of the people that they accept into their ‘feminine home’.  To be “accepted” into their ‘feminine home’ is almost like an exclusive right, given to only a few.  Males, as many of us know, often have to go through great lengths to be “admitted” into their ‘feminine world’.  This, really, is a big part of dating . . . to “request admittance”.
  • It’s an attitude, a way of being.  It is really a place where the childbearing tendency, which is so strong in the female, can manifest themselves and be given a place. 

But we could go further and add:

  • It does not entail being ‘successful’.
  • It does not entail being ‘aggressive’ or ‘assertive’.
  • It does not entail ‘accomplishment’.
  • It does not entail going out into the world.
  • There isn’t an emphasis achieving things.
  • There isn’t an emphasis on making money or things to sustain you.  It’s more of a ‘nurturing’ type of a thing.
  • There isn’t an emphasis on competition.

These qualities, are “male” qualities.  These are the qualities that they are trying to instil in many girls nowadays and is part of why females will remain alienated and dehumanized. 

Almost all the “stable” females I know display this ‘feminine home’ in some way or another.  But many females nowadays have lost a complete sense of it.  Many females will try to “create” a version of it though.  Since females “have to” work you can see how they try to turn work into a home.  The problem is that it is not a ‘home’, no less a ‘feminine home’.  For many girls, nowadays, that’s probably about a close to a ‘home’ as their going to get.

The ‘home’, and subsequently the ‘feminine home’, seems to of begun to fall in the Victorian era.  With all the consumerism, gadgets, new things, and such that has been created the ‘home’ seemed to pale in comparison.  This sense of a ‘loss of home’, it seems to me, is probably what started the ‘male envy’, which so undermined females attitudes about themselves.  It’s worse nowadays, with TV, phones, and all the other stuff, invading and infiltrating every aspect of the ‘home’.  The ‘home’ now is just a ‘place’ where people ‘happen to be’.  I’ve always felt that the best thing that could happen to the female is the reestablishing of the ‘home’ as a reality in our lives again. 

The fall of the ‘home’ has not only devastated the females but has had horrible consequences on society in general.  It’s loss is one of the great tragedies of history.  The loss of the ‘home’ is one of the great acts of alienation and dehumanization.

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