Thoughts on the importance of defined sexual roles

While discussing things some time ago I said something interesting.  What it amounted to is this:


I felt that defined sexual roles were critical in human society.  My main basis in this was the historical record and in my personal experience.  I even went further and said that without defined sexual roles society begins to fall apart.  It’s not for nothing that the deterioration of defined sexual roles, that has happened recently, has coincided with things such as these:

  • The deterioration of sexual identity.
  • The rise of people with supposedly different “sexual orientations”.
  • The deterioration of the relationship between the sexes.
  • The deterioration of the family.
  • The deterioration of the role of the mother.
  • The deterioration of the role of the father.
  • The deterioration of society in general
  • The deterioration of purpose and meaning.
  • Confusion as to our role and place in society.
  • The increase in lack of maturity and growth.

I see a direct association between these things and defined sexual roles, though I believe that there are many other things that has helped to contribute to these problems as well.  I felt that people underestimate the importance of defined sexual roles which is one of the reasons why this association has not been noticed

Look all through history!  Look all over the world!  Defined sexual roles were ALWAYS a part of society.  They were ALWAYS there.  They were ALWAYS enforced.  They were ALWAYS existing.  I don’t know of anywhere that it was not . . . ever!  That is, until the coming of the modern world.

This is, in itself, PROOF of the need for defined sexual roles . . . it wasn’t this way for no reason!

It seems to me that defined sexual roles strengthen society and humanity as a whole.  In addition, it strengthens us as individuals. It does this in ways such as:

  • It gives people a defined role and a place in life.
  • It puts our abilities and natural inclinations where it will be the most beneficial for society and for our own development.  For example, females aren’t put in a place where they have to do heavy labor, which they are not physically capable of doing, and males are not placed where they are taking care of infants, which they aren’t good at doing.
  • It avoids conflicts and disputes between the sexes. 
  • It avoids competition and rivalry between the sexes.
  • It avoids trampling into the other sexes “private ground”.  Both sexes need a “private ground” where there is an absence of the other sex.  This “private ground” allows the opposite sex a ‘place’ to grow and develop themselves.  When the other sex intrudes on this ground it disrupts growth.  Defined sexual roles prevent this from happening.
  • It affords a comradery and companionship between the sexes.  It makes it so they both need and depend on each other.

In short, it gives everyone a purpose, a place, and a way to be, which is beneficial to all of us.  It makes for a better organized efficient society, avoids collisions, and places people where they need to be.  As a result of this, it allows for more growth and development of us as people and who we are.  It also allows for more harmony and better association between the sexes, one that is beneficial to both and to society in general.


Over the years, though, we have seen something that has deteriorated defined sexual roles:  consumerism.  I tend to feel that consumerism not only undermined defined sexual roles but it has blinded us to the result of its loss.  It has come in and utterly devastated the meaning, worth, and value of defined sexual roles, making them almost useless.  Not only that, it has come in with such a force of domination of our lives that we didn’t even see what we lost.  In fact, I feel that consumerism has come in with so much force that we still can’t see its full effects on us and what we have lost.  It may be decades before we fully realize it.

But, one thing is for sure, consumerism has deteriorated defined sexual roles.  In some respects, some consumerism seemed like it was geared to destroying defined sexual identity, almost as if it was its intention.  Many aspects of the husband and wife have taken quite a hit.  This is most apparent with the wife where a lot of consumerism has basically replaced her very function and duties, which have been here for centuries, and defined the female life since the beginning of time.  In many ways, the wife is now almost obsolete as a function.  The mother has almost gone that way too as well.  If they could develop a consumer product to take care of a child, the mother would be all but obsolete.  This is why a trait of the modern female is dealing with the fact that they are ‘obsolete’ and that the femalehood is on the road to an obliteration (I wrote an article about this in this blog called “Thoughts on my statement:  “at the rate we are going the female will be obliterated””).  Similar things have also taken place with the husband and father, though it’s not as obvious. 

This type of destruction of the ‘human life’ shows that ‘consumer life’ is not a ‘human life’ and that it is at odds with it and, in a way, threatens it.  A good example is the example of the wife, whose role has almost been made obsolete by consumerism.  In actuality, through consumerism our ‘human life’ has been undermined and has lost value.  Defined sexual roles, identity, marriage, the family, etc. have all been affected and undermined by consumerism. 

This is nothing to look at lightly.


Many modern ideas have appeared which have contributed to the fall of defined sexual roles.  Here are a few examples:

  • The idea of “equality”.  The idea of “equality” has undermined defined sexual roles and has undermined all of us as a result.  The idea of “equality” sounds good politically and legally but in the real human world it is out-of-place and does not work . . . I think the reality of current times speaks for itself.  The very idea of “equality”, in a way, is anti-role in general.  Anyone who believes in “equality” cannot believe in roles for, once a person takes a role, they are now “unequal”.  This is because a role requires a person to take a place in society, to take a position.  This means that a person must be part of a group with a specified place, which is unequal to other places.  But, the problem is that this is how society has always worked since the beginning of time.  This is how human society works in the real world.  Because of this, “equality”, really, is an anti-society belief system as it is a system that prevents society from working as it should In other words, “equality” is a philosophy that will only break down a society . . . and this is exactly what it has done.  Just take a look at the current times to see this breakdown.
  • The idea of “progress”.  Many people have justified the destruction of defined sexual roles as a sign of “progress”.  This is generally done to satisfy modern ideas of ‘opportunity’ and ‘advancement’.  It may satisfy those things but it doesn’t satisfy the human situation.  In fact, it goes against it.  It is an example of how, in the modern world, people are turning away from the ‘human’ for other things.  It shows how many ideas of ‘progress’ is really nothing but turning us all into machines to make money.  But the idea of ‘progress’ is generally more than that too.  It usually entails the idea that we are moving into a ‘utopia’, a new world where everything will be hunky-dory and great and we’ll all be happy.  Many people’s idea of progress is more a result of this than anything else.  These show one of the great errors of modern thinking:  that by destroying our humanity, and becoming a money-making machine, we will find a great happiness, a utopia.  So far, this hasn’t happened, nor will it.

If one looks at these examples one will see that these ideas are based in an idealism, of a ‘phantasizing’, which is removed from the reality of life.  This is a common trait, I have found, with many modern ideas:  they sound “good” but things don’t work that way in the ‘real world’.  This makes many modern ideas divorced from the reality of life.  Because of this, it fails or causes a failure somewhere.  But people are so stubborn in their belief that they are not willing to see that it failed and why it failed.  As a result, a trait of modern people is a blind stubbornness in a belief that causes a failure.  I’ve always compared this to a ‘superstition’, hence I call it the ‘modern superstition’.   The idea of “equality” and “progress”, I feel, are examples of ‘modern superstitions’.

These ‘modern superstitions’ persist many beliefs that have no basis in the real world or that have a history of failing, much like superstitions in general, and just like superstitions, they are hard to eradicate.  Many people won’t let go of these beliefs.  A lot of our failing human society and condition is a result of such beliefs.


A role is a special relationship a person has in society.  Typically, roles are not just random things.  Specific people are generally given roles for a reason.  A person has a role based on factors such as:

  • Something that is needed.  Roles are generally based on a function that needs to be performed.  As a result, it is generally based on necessity.  The loss of this need is one of the main reasons why roles disappear or fail.  With the coming of machines, consumerism, and such a lot of this need has disappeared.  This is because they are meant to fulfill the need.  As a result, there has been a lot of roles that have deteriorated or disappeared completely.  There is just no longer a need for them.  This is a good example of how having machines fulfill our needs actually destroy human rolesRegardless of whether they make life “easier” or not, our roles are often hurt and often destroyed as a result.
  • Based on ability.  A person’s role is often a result of their natural abilities.  In many ways, a role is using ones natural abilities to the best of society as a whole.  This is very apparent with the different sexes.  The sexes are different types of people with totally different mental and physical makeups.  Since the beginning of time, sexual roles were based on these makeups, to make the most use out of them.  The male was placed where his makeup works the best.  The female was placed where her makeup works the best.  In actuality, that is the base of all sexual roles all over the world since the beginning of time. 
  • Based on belief.  Many roles are based on belief.  This is because belief is a reflection of how one views the world.  Often, roles are ‘assigned’ to fit a world view or conception.  Sometimes, this leads in the wrong direction.  In the U.S., for example, they practically turned almost all roles into an ‘occupational role’.  That is to say, in their mania for ‘opportunity’ they have based their whole conception of their world, and themselves, on ones occupation.  As a result, everything is about going to college or being trained to get a job or in having a job.  In so doing, they have undermined and devalued many other important roles people have had since the beginning of time (such as being a wife or father).  In my conversations with Americans hardly ever do you hear of being a ‘wife’ or ‘father’ but you hear, to the point of nausea, about college and their jobs, as if that was all there is in life.  You can see that their belief system, though it may enforce a specific role, ends up devaluing other more important roles. 

Roles can be a great burden and difficult at times.  Often, having a role takes a lot out of a person and demands a lot from them.  But, despite this, the greatest growth a person can have in society is growth into a role.  Surely, a role contributes to the maturity of a person.  In fact, one could say that a role creates maturity.  Not only that, the prevalence of the lack of maturity nowadays is no doubt a sign of the loss of rolesEducation, learning, having a job, etc. are not the path to maturity and growth. 

The U.S., the land-of-no-roles, has created many myths about growth and maturity.  They seem to think that having an education and an occupation is everything.  They tend to think that is the source of growth and development.  But that’s just something a person does to make money. 

A role goes way beyond any money and occupation.  A role gets into themes of moral and ethical responsibility, of what a person must do as a person in life.  A role is a life-issue.  As such, a role places a person into “life” much like planting a tree.  This makes a role a personal issue, that hits deep within ones soul.  In many ways, a role is one of the most personal issues a person can have.  This is because a role defines who we are and what we are.  It makes us who we are.  In many respects, a role makes us human.   It makes us a person. 

This greater sense of the role has been lost nowadays.  I know of few people who know it.


Defined sexual roles are a reflection of the natural human condition.  Its part of a naturally appearing condition.  That is to say, it does not reflect an artificial condition such as the modern condition or the consumer world.  It reflects how humanity really is in the ‘real world’ in natural conditions.  The need for roles and sexual identity is something seen all through history all over the world.  Human society needs it.  We need it.  That is just the way it is. 

When the modern world begins to deteriorate (which it will) you will probably find that humanity will automatically begin to go back to defined sexual roles.  This is because defined sexual roles is a natural “human” thing to do.  But, in order for this to happen, we need to live in natural conditions.  I would not be surprised if we may be able to measure how much we are returning to natural conditions by how strong defined sexual roles have been reestablished, almost as if it were a gauge.


I have written a reply to an interesting response to this article called “Response to a reply to my article “Thoughts on the importance of defined sexual roles” – female identity problems and the “politically justified neurosis”“.

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