In a conversation, recently, I stated something interesting. I said:
“The femalehood is on the verge of extinction”
This means that a sexuality is becoming redundant and worthless and is slowly disappearing.
This, it seems to me, is a whole new idea. We’ve seen the idea of the extinction of things such as animals, beliefs, cultures, etc. but I have never heard of something like a sexuality going extinct.
But, from what I have seen, the femalehood is slowly fading away. As it appears to me, the female seems a degraded person whose life is often based in trying to be someone else (such as the male) or by becoming something else (such as seeking social ideals) primarily because the femalehood no longer has any value. By “femalehood” I mean naturally appearing female traits and qualities that are developed and grown so that they have value both socially and personally.
I first became aware of this problem in the late 1980’s and have been inquiring about it ever since. I’ve stated many aspects of this inquiry in many articles in this blog.
A BRIEF OVERVIEW OF THE INQUIRY INTO THIS PROBLEM
I first became aware of this problem when I began to question why females seemed so preoccupied with abuse in the mid 1980’s. This preoccupation appeared a number of ways, such as:
- Many females want to be abused and will seek it out. This is actually what started the inquiry. I was quite stunned how many females wanted the male to “hurt” or abuse them in some way. There is a small segment of the female population who desire and want this and will deliberately seek males out who will “hurt” and abuse them. It didn’t take long to discover that the females desire to be abused was a reference to sex.
- Then I found that many females found abuse in everything even down to everyday things like opening the door for them or even looking at them! I saw females who could find abuse in anything . . . you name it.
- Then I noticed that many females fabricated abuses. The desire for abuse is so strong, in some females, that they will create abuses when nothing has happened. The extent of this, and it is quite extensive, completely stunned me.
- I then noticed how many females falsely accused people of abusing them. Generally, when a female fabricated an abuse she falsely accused someone for it. The male is the one usually blamed. I was completely appalled by this observation.
It seemed that, every time I turned around, there was something involving abuse with the female. It is so prevalent that it was sickening.
There are many ways of how this abuse appears, such as claims of such as these:
- Sexual abuse
- They are being degraded
- They are oppressed
- They are slaves
Oftentimes, it appears as a paranoia to the point that they think all the male population is plotting against them, or even the whole world is against them.
Overall, I found that there is really no difference between the different claims of abuse. That is to say, they are speaking of the same theme and mentality but in different ways. For example, a female stating a false claim of sexual abuse and a feminist claiming the male oppresses her is really nothing but different ways of saying the same thing: the male is “hurting” her in some way. Some examples:
- I always love to quote a statement I heard one feminist say . . . “the history of the world is the history of the enslavement of women” which more or less says that history is nothing but an example of the abuse of the female by the tyrant oppressive male.
- A good example of a false claim of sexual abuse is an instance where a female claimed she had been raped by a guy. She said she was traumatized and he should be put in prison. It was shown to her that there was evidence that he was somewhere else at the time he was supposed to of raped her. At first she denied it but finally she agreed that he wasn’t there. She then went on to say ” . . . he should still be put in prison because I feel traumatized”. But the man didn’t do anything! She’s too convinced that a male has “hurt” her.
These are examples of the type of mentality that I was seeing. The more I looked at this mentality the more fascinating it became. But I must admit that, after a while, it sort of became sickening and disgusting. It started to reveal a not-so-good quality of the female character and, I must admit, it made me lose some respect for the female. Its prompted a number of statements by me, such as:
- “You don’t come up to me, look me in the face, and tell me that half the population is trying to oppress, enslave, and degrade the other half and expect me to believe it!”
- I sometimes will add something like this, ” . . . and what’s even more ridiculous is that you expect me to think that the male is doing this because they hate females! You actually expect me to believe that?” (As we’ll see below, behind a lot of this mentality is the females contempt for being female, which they often project onto the male making them mistakenly feel that the males hates her . . . actually, the females hate themselves!)
- “You have the audacity to come up to me, quote the Constitution, and expect that this automatically makes you right and that I’m supposed to up and believe the nonsense your dishing out? (As we’ll see below, the themes of the Constitution, freedom, etc. play a big role in the “Regency Ailment”. This is because it has a lot of origin in the effects caused by the French Revolution and the problem of the aristocracy. As a result, they wield political theories like a weapon.).
A Psychological Inquiry . . .
Keep in mind that this came at a time when I was studying to be a psychologist. As a result, I saw all this as a psychological problem, as I still do now. To me, this is all psychology. I say this as, for an insecure female, any statement about themselves that they don’t like will be viewed as . . . you guessed it . . . an abuse. Because I’m a male I am obviously a tyrannical oppressive beast and hate females and am trying to degrade them by saying all this!!! Don’t laugh. That line of thought is very common and reveals a lot about the mentality behind it (as we’ll see below, there is an association between abuse, the male, and female self-contempt which that line of thought reflects).
For me, this was my first independent psychological inquiry with the intent at being a psychologist. After I abandoned psychology I continued the inquiry primarily because it was so prevalent (I see it everywhere I turn) and because it became fascinating and interesting. In fact, I’d say it is one of the more fascinating things I’ve inquired about. This is because it entailed so many different things, such as general psychology, female psychology, sociology, and history, which I had to bring together to create a complete picture. It also deals with themes no one talks about (such as female psychology, female problems, menstruation, etc.). This personal inquiry has gone on for about 35 years now.
A Progression of Thought
Here is a brief progression of the themes I saw with this problem during this inquiry:
- I found that the preoccupation with abuse to be a reference to the desire for sex (for example, females wanting to be abused by the male reflects their sexual desire showing the association: abuse<<<>>>sex)
- I then discovered that, behind the preoccupation with abuse, there was a victim mentality, a viewpoint that the female is being “hurt” or “damaged” in some way
- I found that the victim mentality is associated with menstruation which is viewed as “hurting” or “damaging” the female
- Menstruation eventually leads to childbearing and motherhood which, as we’ll see below, is also associated with “hurting” or “damaging” the female
- The problem that they had with menstruation/childbearing/motherhood is a result of a failing of the female identity which no longer gave meaning to these things
- The failing of the female identity tends to cause a contempt of the female, the female role, and what a female does
- This contempt of the female tends to cause a devaluation, degradation, or undermining of the female by the female themselves (but they usually blame someone else for it) . . . this can even appear as a desire to be a man or like a man
- The failure of the female identity began in the early-mid 1800’s in England and spread after that, permeating Victorian society and passing on into modern society
In other words, in the past 200 years there has seen a breakdown in the female identity and one of the ways it appears is a preoccupation with abuse and being “hurt”. Further inquiry revealed even more manifestations and effects of this breakdown.
Abuse and Motherhood
What I found is that there is an association of abuse, and the female being “hurt”, with these themes:
- The male
These can all be viewed as “abusive” to the female, or as a threat, and often has this uncanny knack at “hurting” them in one way or the other.
From an overall perspective we can see that being “hurt” is a reference to things associated with motherhood. From menstruation to childbearing to sex, motherhood “hurts” the female. In other words, there is a connection between abuse, being “hurt”, and the theme of motherhood in general.
Keep in mind that this “motherly desire” entails everything associated with motherhood, such has the male, sex, childbearing, menstruation, etc. Generally, there becomes a “fixation” on something specific, such as the male or sex, which tends to make it seem removed from “motherly desire”.
Looking at it closer, its apparent that motherly desire has become “repressed”. There are a number of reasons for this, which include:
- The failure of the female identity which does not allow motherly desire to manifest itself
- The Christian moral code which forces the motherly desire to be “repressed” (in other words, motherly desire is repressed just like sexual desire)
These then cause motherly desire to become repressed and to come out in other ways, such as feeling that they have been “hurt” or victimized by the male.
One thing that is often associated with this conflict is a great irony and dilemma which can cause great conflicts for some females. There becomes a dilemma between these two things:
- The mother instinct makes it so that the female perceives herself as being “precious” (what she’s feeling is the “preciousness” of motherhood, so to speak).
- The problem is that she has to be violated or damaged in order for that “preciousness” to be realized (sex and pregnancy).
The dilemma then becomes much like “I’m precious . . . I must be hurt though . . . I’m precious . . . I must be hurt though . . . ” or something similar. For many females this becomes the base of a victim mentality. It also often creates in females a great sense of being “vulnerable” and “fragility” which is the source of the quality of being “feminine”.
The Drive to be a Victim = The Drive to be a Mother
My observation is that many females have a drive to be a victim. This causes them to do things such as:
- To see abuse in everything
- To interpret the world as an abuse
- To see the male as a threat
- To want to be victimized or abused
- To become obsessed with abuse and victimhood
Its as if they want to be a victim, deep down, but are as if denying it consciously. But, as I said above, the theme of being a victim, abused, and “hurt” are references to motherhood. As a result, the drive to be a victim really hides a drive to be a mother.
Many females, it seems to me, are no longer able to acknowledge these motherly desires no less know what they are about. It seems, to me, as if the whole subject of “motherly desire” has been completely forgotten or neglected. As near as I can tell, I’m the only one who talks about it.
What all this shows is that the female identity is necessary to deal with, and give meaning, to naturally appearing female impulses. In particular, it shows that there is a close association with the female identity and the impulses associated with motherhood, which I generally call the “mother instinct”. What I was seeing, in actuality, was a bunch of females who have become alienated from the mother instinct. It often appears as a preoccupation with abuse and being “hurt”.
This began a long inquiry into female identity, how identity affects them, and why there was a breakdown in the identity, and its effects on them. My further inquiry revealed a great conflict in the female identity. Here are some quick thoughts on it:
DESCRIBING THE PROBLEM
Ever since a previous article I have written (Thoughts on the ‘failed sex’ – how many female traits have failed – a hidden crisis of the American female) I have stated as a description of this problem:
“This is the first time in the history of the world where a sexuality, meaning the femalehood, has failed to maintain itself as a distinct and viable institution in the society”
From what I have seen, that is very accurate and sums it up rather simply. Here are the main words of that statement:
- Sexuality. This refers to naturally appearing female quality traits.
- Failed. This refers to an inability or inadequacy.
- Maintain. This refers to being able to keep ones self “constant”, and uphold ones self, even though things may try to change ones self.
- Distinct. This refers to keeping themselves as separate, unique, and removed from everything else . . . a distinct identity.
- Viable. This refers to the giving of ones naturally appearing traits value and worth, to both oneself and society.
- Institution. This refers to a collective social organization specifically catering to the female and naturally appearing female traits, and giving them value as a result. That is to say, an institution is not a bunch of girls preaching how females are victims which has nothing to do with the value of naturally appearing female traits, such as we see with feminists.
From my observation, the female life, nowadays, offers only few paths for the female to be, such as:
- A victim mentality – perceiving themselves as victims
- Trying to be a man, or like a man, or even trying to replace the male
- A female puppet – being a slave and puppet to society and social ideals
- A false and exaggerated sense of superiority
- Self-righteousness – becoming high and mighty, usually by using law and politics as a defense, which hides a deeper unconscious feeling of being a victim and a bad view of the female
We see a number of qualities:
- An absence of natural female tendencies
- An absence of any form of an institution
- An absence of the value of being female
None of them promote any value in the femalehood.
DEHUMANIZATION OR IDENTITY PROBLEM
At first thought I thought that this was a result of dehumanization caused by the modern world. My inquiry has shown otherwise. It revealed something worse.
As I said above, from what I’ve seen, this looks a failure of the female identity. It would probably be more accurate to say that it describes a breakdown of the female identity. This breakdown has been going on for over 200 years now . . .
ORIGINS OF THE FAILURE OF THE FEMALE IDENTITY – THE “REGENCY AILMENT”
It seems, to me, that the origin of this identity problem seems to of originated in England during the Regency years, or thereabouts (really from about 1790 to 1820). This period of time became as if a pot that brought together all these ingredients and made a soup out of it. One of the products of this soup is the female identity problem. I often speak of this soup as the “Regency Ailment”.
Because it originates in the Regency years, the female identity problems tend to reflect much of the conflict of those times. In fact, if one looks closely one can see that many females are still stuck in the Regency years and still continue its mentalities . . . some more, some less. This means that many females are 200 years out of date and are still viewing things as if those conditions were still existing! This is one reason why many of us listen to what some girls say and go “what?”
Some common qualities I see with the “Regency Ailment” include:
- A self-righteous cause. This is often to the point of an arrogance and pigheadedness. It is generally rooted in the themes of freedom which originate from the ideas of the French Revolution (see below). Its generally used as “justification” for what they do.
- A preoccupation or obsession with status or doing what is socially esteemed. This has origin in the aristocracy and the attempt at imitating the aristocracy (see below).
- A preoccupation with oppression, rights, equality, slavery, etc. This also originates from the French Revolution and the aristocracy problem (see below).
- A tendency to be slavish, particularly toward society and social things. This primarily originates from the desire to imitate the aristocracy so they become slavish so society and imitate it often to ridiculous proportions. It also has origin in the growth of media which made slavishly following society more prevalent.
- A victim mentality. This originates from alienation from the mother instinct that the “Regency Ailment” causes (see above).
- A tendency to view ones self as threatened. This is part of the victim mentality but also has root in how the female feels threatened as a result of the fall of female society (see below).
- A poor view of the female and female things. This originates from alienation from the mother instinct that the “Regency Ailment” causes (see above).
- A desire to be a man. This originates from alienation from the mother instinct that the “Regency Ailment” causes (see above). As I always say, “they are so insecure in being a woman that they hide behind the identity of a man”.
- An inner insecurity which can appear like a mental instability, anger, hatred, etc. This is largely an effect of the failure of the female identity.
Generally, a female will tend to focus on one, or several, qualities. Seldom do you see all qualities though they may display all qualities occasionally. The focusing on one, or several, qualities can be done to such an extent that it defines their personality. In this way, the “Regency Ailment” often creates specific character types. Some that I see include:
- The “superior female” – she tends to think she’s on a higher plane than everyone else, particularly the male
- The “social climber female” – she tends to want to do what is socially esteemed so she can be esteemed
- The “oppressed female” – she is convinced she, or the female, has been oppressed
- The “fighting for my rights” female – she is convinced that she has to fight for her rights for everything
- The “male-want-to-be” female – she tries to be a man
- The “social puppet female” – she slavishly does what society wants
The character types and qualities described above all originate from the conditions of the Regency years and the effects it caused.
It seems, to me, that the “Regency Ailment”, and the qualities it creates, has strong roots in what can be described as “the problem of the aristocracy” and its effects . . .
The Problem of the Aristocracy
The 1700’s, and into the 1800’s, which includes the Regency years, there was a great conflict of the aristocracy. There became a conflict between two things:
- The aristocracy began to lose its value in society and even began to be viewed as a threat
- Despite this, the image of the aristocracy was so favorable that people wanted to emulate and be like them
Some of the themes associated with this conflict include:
- The appeal of the aristocracy – This causes a tendency to be like and imitate them.
- The effects of the French Revolution – This causes a tendency to be preoccupied with “oppression”, freedom, rights, etc.
- The rise of the bourgeoisie – It also in response to a growing wealth which eventually caused a desire for social climbing. This is began a process where people began to imitate the aristocracy.
- Nationalism caused by the Napoleonic Wars – This caused an arrogance and pride as well as a patriotism associated with the aristocracy which made people want to emulate and imitate them.
What we see is that this whole mentality is actually rooted in the social class problem of England . . . the aristocracy versus the common people . . . and reflects the common peoples desire to be like the aristocracy. This reflects an irony that pervades the “Regency Ailment”, and is the source of many qualities of the Regency years. These are:
- The hatred and dislike of the aristocracy. This originates from the problem with the aristocracy which culminated in the French Revolution, which is like a war against the aristocracy, and the idea of being “oppressed” by them.
- The desire to be like the aristocracy. This causes a tendency to imitate and emulate them.
Its like they are trying to imitate and be like the people they despise and view as a threat! This creates something like a weird irony. On one hand they are all trying to imitate “proper aristocratic ladies” but, on the other hand, they are condemning the aristocrats as “oppressors”. This irony eventually caused several tendencies:
- A slavishness toward society and social ideals as they try to “ape” the aristocracy
- A viewpoint of being “oppressed”, which would turn into a preoccupation with abuse and being a victim
The effect of all this is a tendency to things such as:
- A concern over status and social climbing
- A preoccupation with imitating the socially esteemed
- A preoccupation on social image or how one appears socially
- A slavish attitude toward society
- Viewing themselves as “oppressed”, as abused and victimized in some way
These themes are very prevalent in the “Regency Ailment”.
“Oppression” and Abuse
In the “Regency Ailment”, several things are significant:
- The conflict with the aristocracy and social class
- The French Revolution
These become intimately bound up with the idea of the “oppression”, abuse, and victimizing of the female. These caused a number of things to happen:
- It causes a tendency to exaggerate and blow any “oppression” and abuse, real or imagined, out of proportion. Its like it gives them a license to exaggerate it.
- It causes a tendency to make a political issue out of things. Some girls get really carried away with this and some have even made a life out of it.
I tend to believe that these are instrumental in causing the preoccupation with abuse. In this way, we could say that the females obsessive preoccupation with abuse are a result of the aristocracy, social class, and the French Revolution. Without these events, there probably wouldn’t be the obsessive, ridiculous, and exaggerated concern over abuse that we see today.
A Puppet Mentality
For the female, the “Regency Ailment” primarily created what I call the female puppet. In many ways, the female puppet phenomena is the root of this problem and the fall of the female identity.
The female puppet does things such as:
- They slavishly follow society and social ideals
- They are so slavish that they abandon, and give up, who and what they are
- Society takes the place of their “self”
In the most extreme forms of the female puppet mentality the female will literally lose a sense of herself as a distinct individual . . . she ceases to exist as a person. Her sense of “self”, and who she is, lies in society . . . society becomes her “self”. As a result, the female identity no longer lies in “being female” but in “slavishly following society”. In this way, we see that the female puppet destroys the female person and identity.
This is exactly what it did too.
The “Female Slave Cycle”
Basically, the slavish attitude of the “Regency Ailment” makes many females become utter slaves to social ideals. They will utterly enslave themselves to them and seldom notice that this has happened. But when the craze dies down their slavish attitudes continues with the net result that they now “feel slaves”. They will then blame someone else for this even though they were the ones who enslaved themselves. I speak of this is as the “female slave cycle”. There are stages to this cycle:
- Something becomes popular
- It gets social support
- It grows as a mania in the females
- They become enslaved to it as a result
- It reaches a high point of popularity
- It begins to fall in influence
- The mania ends
- All that remains is their slavish attitude
- They then begin to feel “enslaved” or “oppressed” . . . they are actually feeling their own slavish attitude
- They blame someone else for these feelings of enslavement
The important point about this is that the female tends to enslave themselves to something, on their own accord, and then blame someone else for it when they realize that they are slaves.
This cycle became very prevalent with the “Regency Ailment” mentality. This is because slavishness to society is so prevalent in this mentality and, in many ways, is a particular trait.
A New Way of Bringing Up Daughters
During the Regency years, this desire to be like the aristocracy caused many mothers to teach their daughters something like an “artificial female identity” which is based in the aristocracy but which has no real practical value. This caused them to practically abandon the female identity. This is an identity that was already existing and which is the product of generations of females. This tendency spread rapidly in the mid 1800’s. It caused a number of effects:
- The female no longer followed an established identity based on experience
- The female identity was now based in “aping” the aristocracy
- The abandoning of existing female identities undermined the femalehood, destroying it as a distinct and viable institution in the society
- The female society, that replaced the destroyed female institution, became an imitation of the aristocracy and society
Because of all this the female life, really, became not much unlike a performance, a play acting, a theater performance. This often gives the female a phony or superficial quality. In fact, many females feel this phony performance quality and its not uncommon for them to refer to it in some way, often making fun of it.
As time when on they started a ball rolling that got bigger and bigger as time went on, completely destroying the femalehood, the female institution, and the female identity. All that is left after 200 years . . . the female puppet.
It seems that a common trait of the “Regency Ailment” is a great self-contempt in females. I am often amazed of the poor views that many females have of themselves.
This female self-contempt come from Christianity and the idea that we are all sinners and should be punished. It has several origins:
- The aristocracy. The Crusades were influential in the rise of the aristocracy. They were defending Christianity and, as a result, represented Christianity. When females tried to imitate the aristocracy they also took on these attitudes of “representing Christianity”. This is why many females think they are the representatives of “peace and love” . . . those are Christian values not the representation of the female character, as many claim.
- The Christianity of the common people. The normal Christian beliefs emphasized that we are all sinners.
With the failure of the female identity, and the problems it creates, it becomes an avenue for female self-contempt. Because of this, female self-contempt is often a sign of a failed female identity.
My observation is that many females with self-contempt feel a dislike of being female and then blame other people for it . . . usually the male. This tendency to blame is often because of the female puppet mentality. Remember that, in this mentality, the female gives up her self for society. As a result, she has no sense of self, only of society. Therefore, any problem she has cannot be hers but must be someone else’s fault. This shows how the female puppet mentality tends to create an “innocent victim” viewpoint.
Trying to be a Male Knight
Many females will try to be like a male or try to display male qualities. In many ways, they are trying to be a “male knight” or aristocrat, so to speak. They will try to emulate male ideals and basically be like a man. For example, many females seem particularly preoccupied with being “strong”. This is for a number of reasons such as:
- The failure of female identity
- Female self-contempt that makes them not want to be female
- The males association with motherly desire . . . a manifestation of the repressed desire to be a mother . . . being a “male knight” satisfies this desire but in a neurotic way
Some females view this trying to be like a man as some sort of a cause, as if they are somehow going to be saved by it. In this way, the females imitation of the male is really a continuation of the “knight in shining armor” theme, except that the female tries to be her own “knight in shining armor”.
From my observation a female trying to be a man or “male knight” has greatly undermined the female and their identity. How, exactly, does it help the female identity? In addition, it never helps them regain any self-respect or dignity.
The “American aristocracy”
Of course, in America, the aristocracy has been greatly replaced by American ideals. Some of these include:
- Work. The obsession over work often prompts me to say that “one of these days the female is going to wake up and find that all a female is is a person who has a job”.
- Achievement. They “have to” achieve that. They “have to” achieve this.
- Success. They are all measured by success.
- Materialism. Of course, “whoever has the most toys wins”.
Because these reflect the “new American aristocracy” many females kill themselves trying to achieve these in much the way the English girls killed themselves trying to be like aristocratic ladies.
From what I’ve seen, nowadays, I would hate to be a female between the ages of about 10 to the late 20’s. The slavishness, and puppet mentality, they are now displaying is probably worse than was seen in England. In fact, this mentality may be worse now than it ever has been in 200 years. One of the reason for this, I believe, is the prevalence of media and, in particular, social media. These offer new avenues of slavishness and puppetry for the female with the “Regency Ailment”.
The Growing Problem
Some things that made this problem grow bigger include:
- The growth of media. This made the mentality spread and grow more easily. Social media seems particularly damaging.
- Consumerism. This made it easier for females to imitate and follow society.
- Overpopulation. This gave a social environment for all this to grow.
- Mass mentality. The tendency to mass mentality, which many females are prone to, make many females blindly “follow along” mindlessly
These made it a greater social issue and problem causing it to spread and grow in force. To me, the “Regency Ailment” behaves much like an infectious disease. It spreads through the female population almost too easily and quickly.
The Fall of Female Society
The “Regency Ailment” undermined and basically destroyed female society. By “female society” I mean a sub-society in the society that is made up only of females and that reflects their natural appearing qualities and mentalities. In every society there is a male society and a female society. These societies do not have physical boundaries, typically, though they can. Their true boundaries lie in things like:
- Value and worth
- Security, social, and personal
Its in these societies that each sex develops their naturally appearing qualities and traits and give it meaning, worth, and value. Its in these societies that they have example and direction. It is here that they develop a unity and an identity of who they are. Because of all this there develops a dignity and a security in who they are.
The loss of this society undermines all the above and causes things like:
- Loss of sense of who they are
- Little sense of being part of a group and lack of belonging
- Feelings of worthlessness
- Feeling that one has no inner value
The “Regency Ailment” caused all these by undermining female society. As a result, these are common traits of the ailment. It undermined female society a number of ways:
- By abandoning established female identity
- By trying to be someone else (such as the aristocracy or male)
- By becoming a puppet to society
In many ways, the conditions and effects of the “Regency Ailment” caused female society to disappear and to be replaced by a “society-as-a-whole”. By this I mean that female society has been replaced by the greater society which encompasses everyone and everybody. In this way, females are looking for an identity, meaning, and dignity in the greater society which has little to do with the female or female character traits. The result: an inadequate and failed female identity. As a result of this, the female has had to force herself to “fit in” to “society-as-a-whole”. The problems is that they don’t fit in. This has caused many problems for many females. In fact, this trying to “fit in” to the greater society has become one of the main activities and efforts of many females and encompasses many problems that females now face. Overall, it has only intensified their alienation and identity problems making them feel more a victim.
In fact, this has created a new type of female character. I often call it the “force-herself” female. This is because they have to “force herself” to fit in to greater society. These girls tend to put forth great effort and work to “fit in”. As a result, they tend to be greatly strained, stressed, nervous, and uptight. This is because female society and greater society are actually opposed to each other in character. Because of this, the “forced-herself” female is trying to force an unnatural condition to take place. Many “forced-herself” females hide behind things associated with social approval and status. This isn’t surprising as the “Regency Ailment” is very much rooted in a slavish puppet mentality to society. For many of these females, the measure of themselves will be based on how well they do what is “socially approved”. This can become like an obsession and completely dominate their lives. Despite how well they hide behind the “socially approved” they are actually insecure alienated females deep down, with an identity problem. As a result, there develops a “social self” and a “deeper self”. The “social self” generally appears stable but when the insecure “deeper self” appears it can be quite dramatic. What comes out are themes associated with the “Regency Ailment” described above (for example, claiming that they are oppressed or are abused).
Much of this tendency to replace female society by “society-as-a-whole” is caused by things like:
- The abandoning of established female identity
- Trying to be someone else (such as the male or what is socially esteemed)
- The slavish attitude toward society
It seems that the slavish attitude toward “society-as-a-whole”, in particular, plays a big role in the undermining of the femalehood. This became particularly apparent with the “Regency Ailment” because it tended to turn females into puppets to society. In some respects, one could say that the slavishness to society causes the female to “lose herself” in society causing the female to lose value as a person and society.
The fall of female society often causes a sense of being threatened. When the female replaces females society with “society-as-a-whole” they feel vulnerable to it. This is further proof that female society and “society-as-a-whole” are opposed in character. It also shows that females society offers a security for the female. “Society-as-a-whole” does not offer this.
I tend to feel that the fall of female society is one of the main problems of this problem. This is why I often say, “the fall of female society is the fall of the female”.
The Overall Effect
The effect of all this is that it undermined and slowly destroyed the female identity. Basically, there has become a loss of dignity and value in the female. This caused a number of reactions:
- The female began to try to be like someone else, such as the socially esteemed, or a man
- The female became a puppet to society
- The deeper effect of the loss of identity which alienates them from things like the mother instinct and causes neurotic problems, such as feeling an abused victim or a paranoia that all men were trying to degrade the female
These all have eaten away at the female these past 200 years causing a slow deterioration and obliteration of the female both socially and as a person.
NEW FORMS OF EXTINCTION???
This brings up the question of the nature of this extinction. It seems, to me, that the female, as a group, is making themselves extinct. In this way, this is a new type of extinction, and in two ways:
- The extinction of a sexuality . . . femalehood
- A self-extinction . . . females making the femalehood redundant
I’ve not heard of either form of extinction. They seem totally new. To me, though, they seem very real. I see examples of it almost every day.
This is how it appears to me at this time anyways.
Copyright by Mike Michelsen